Sunday, 19 May 2013

The Last Nine Months

It is just over three weeks since the end of my nine month European tour and I have just about scraped the shattered remains of my former self off the literal and figurative stages of Europe in order to write my first real post in AGES.  Once I have found myself again and remembered what funny is, you will hear more from me, but give me time, for I am still delicate.  As an actress, I need to be grateful for every job I get, for they are so sought after, and, in this sense, I am incredibly glad to have done the tour and very flattered and thankful for everyone who made it happen for me.  However, now that the job is over and I can bask in the knowledge that I did my very best, I feel like I've only recently woken up from a very strange dream where I was a completely different person and behaved in very uncharacteristic ways.  It was the same length, and probably just as traumatic as, a pregnancy, and included throwing up and bizarre food cravings: In February and most of March, for example, I lived almost entirely off crisps, mini babybels, and that fake mashed potato you have to pour water into, and every possible combination of the above. 

I do not like the person I was on tour, and it is hard being in the same body as a miserable bitch for nine months; I’m not used to hating myself, so it was a new and unpleasant experience.  It is difficult to describe what exactly made me feel like this, because a lot of the time I really was having a lot of fun, but it was the kind of fun that quickly vanished leaving me feeling a bit empty, like eating a whole tub of jelly beans instead of dinner, which I may or may not have done on the tour at one point.

Probably the most negative part of the experience was the fact that I constantly felt very disconnected from everything going on around me, and that was a large factor in the lack of blog posts; the thought of writing for an audience when all I was doing in my working life was performing for an audience seemed frustrating and exhausting, and caused me to retreat into myself.  On the surface, travelling around 14 different countries and getting applause at the end of every working day should be a very good thing, and I put myself under an enormous amount of pressure to appreciate every moment of it.  Throughout my nine months, I saw some beautiful sites and was immersed in a large number of different cultures.  Driving alongside the alps, for example, was an incredible opportunity and I very much enjoyed it, but it was clear that the scenery seemed to have much more of an effect on other people than on me.  To be polite, I’d always join in with exclamations of ‘wow, yeah that’s awesome’ Before going back to my book or my DS, but if I’m honest, I didn’t really see what the fuss was about.  While I celebrate others’ rights to appreciate things like mountains and blue skies, when I looked out of the window of the van, I couldn’t help but think that it just looked like a postcard, and so something that I’d seen before.  It looked too perfect; too unreal, to actually be real.  My mind couldn’t fathom it, so I just didn’t engage with it.  In contrast, at one point we passed through a field of cows and I got VERY excited.

“Look at those cows!” I said gleefully, “They actually have BELLS on their necks! I mean, you always hear that cows are meant to have bells around their necks, but…wow, actually seeing them?”

The others were baffled.  I was struck with an unfathomable loneliness.  I may even have cried a bit.  I still thought the cows were AWESOME.  I had a similar experience in Brazil- where my companions were looking at the view of the Copacabana and Ipanema beaches from the top of a hill, I was, instead, staring at a collection of ants which I found interesting.

Similarly, on the cruise I did two years ago, we explored the Baltic sea, which is especially nice as it’s usually frozen but very sunny, so the views are amazing.  This was also the cruise where my computer broke.  As I looked out over the front of the boat into a seemingly endless blue ocean, the sunlight made the whole body of water and ice shimmer and glisten; the boat carved its way almost noiselessly through the water and as I stood there, alone in the world but for an ocean and a sky, I was struck dumb by how little I felt by all of this, and how I would much rather have a computer that worked.

This was what visiting all those wonderful cities was like; I knew that I was SUPPOSED to be impressed, but, if anything, the beauty of the landscapes and buildings before me just made me feel empty.  The fact that other people around me kept telling me that I should be in utter awe of what I was seeing somehow made me feel even emptier, as if there was something I was lacking, which caused this vicious circle of emptiness and misery that cheap and delicious German beer only went some way to alleviate.

As a result, all the good, fun things that happened would quickly drift out of my mind, leaving a very negative impression of each city I visited:

Having a cold while everyone else was at a street party drinking free wine was not very fun.

Neither was having a 48 hour IBS attack.

Wandering the streets looking for my hotel which was only two blocks away the whole time.

This hotel (or rather, just my room,) had the slowest internet I've ever experienced.  When I was on tour, the internet became more important than food, warmth or shelter.

I don't know what happened in Munich- it was a combination of PMS, IBS and hearing the news that I wouldn't be seeing Foofy for a month rather than a week, as was originally planned.

Padua in the spring was a very bad place to have a fever; I'm surprised I didn't completely evaporate.

Our very last experience of the tour was almost our last experience on this Earth due to our cab driver apparently having a death wish.

There were some fun moments too, of course, but I can’t help associating the entire experience with feelings of anger, guilt, worry and depression, meaning that now, whenever I see anything that even vaguely represents a European country I visited, particularly Germany, I feel a growing sense of anxiety and have difficulty breathing.  Yesterday, somebody had wurst and sauerkraut for dinner and just the sight of it practically made me weep into my prawns.

I am in America now, however, for the graduation of Foofy; yesterday a puppy ran up to me and literally wet itself with excitement, and you can’t get much better than that really.  Now I have rested myself and got over the trauma of repeatedly having to get up at 6am, having to strip down to my bra in front of a total of more than 100,000 European school children, being spat on and beaten up (part of the play; nothing personal!) several times a week and having to wash my knickers in hotel sinks with the free soap they give you, I am able to look at the positives and muse upon what I have learnt.

I had a lot of fun with my touring pals and I’m sure we’ll get up to many more adventures together, but the experience really taught me how much my weirdo friends from home mean to me and how I probably need to appreciate the people who love the things I love and who think I’m awesome a bit more.  Seeing an Italian sunset is one thing, but playing Settlers of Catan while drinking mojitos and screaming about somebody stealing my 2:1 lumber port is something else entirely.  Some people like drinking good wine outside with conversation.  I prefer drinking cheap Amaretto alone while I write about fictional universes where people fight monsters for a living.  Some people like snow-topped mountains and lakes as still as sheets of glass.  I prefer singing the Act 1 finale of Iolanthe at double speed with 20 other loons while drinking half a bottle of sherry.  Some people like acting on tour; I think, mind I say I think, I kind of prefer singing, teaching and quacking occasionally.  I’m still working this one out though; I certainly haven’t given up on touring just yet.  Perhaps I’ll get the opportunity to re-live the experience with all this knowledge in mind, and perhaps, this time, I may kick ass just a wee bit more.  


  1. Wow. Three quick comments: First, thanks for returning to your blog audience! Second, I am impressed you actually stayed for the whole tour (yes, I am a quitter). Third, weeping at the sight of sauerkraut is a perfectly healthy reaction.

    1. Yes! I didn't quit! This was the best thing about it. :)

  2. Hey, come on! I have video proof that me and Steve were also greatly enjoying the ants. I refuse to be mis-represented in this manner!

    1. Ha ha! Yes, there was a little artistic license applied there, but I do distinctly remember a moment where you were both trying to get me to look at the view and I was still face down in ants. You were, however, just as interested in the ants as I was. :)